[Researched by Stacey Kuster, who portrays Mrs. Weston]
A woman of the Regency period had no other occupation than to find a husband. Austen’s plots, though fundamentally comic, highlight the dependence of women on marriage to secure social standing and economic security. Girls from well-off families went to school but it was felt important for them to learn ‘accomplishments’ like embroidery and music rather than academic subjects.
It wasn’t until the end of the nineteenth century that married women had any rights over their property – either that which they owned at marriage or any which they acquired after marriage either by inheritance or by their own earnings. All property within marriage legally belonged to the husband. Women generally did not inherit wealth, nor were they openly allowed to find their own means; so marriage was one of the few options they had to secure a comfortable future. A marriage based on love was rarely an option for a Regency woman; income was the first consideration. It is probably why this period yielded some of the best literary romance available today.
Daily life: After breakfast with the children, the first job of the lady of the house would be to talk to the housekeeper. It would be important for them to communicate about the other servants, making sure they were doing their jobs properly and behaving correctly above and below stairs.
They would also discuss the evening meal. If visitors were expected, the lady would choose meals that were lavish and unusual. When these matters were dealt with the wife would then check through the household accounts. Bills for meat, candles and flour would usually be paid weekly. When the early morning activities were finished, the social whirl would begin! High society ladies would either receive calls or visit others. Tea would be drunk and snacks eaten.
Young gentlewomen were expected to have demonstrated skill in accomplishments, refined female occupations such as music, dancing, painting, needlework, and foreign language. Such skills were intended to occupy a young girl’s time with useful, improving activity, but they also served two practical purposes: 1) to impress a prospective husband; and 2) to provide entertainment for guests at domestic parties and dinners. A young lady would require instruction to learn many of these skills, so a family of means might employ a dancing master, a music teacher, and the like to prepare a daughter to enter society.
Accomplishments were one way a girl from a lower class family could hope to marry up in social station. Most women of any class were married by the time they were 18 if they married at all; if they reached the age of 25 without a husband , then they were considered old maids, unable–and unlikely–to find a man.
“There were limited roles for the well-bred single woman over the age of 22 or 23 when she was considered past her prime. If she were wealthy in her own right, she might set up house with a suitable female companion” although this would generally be thought eccentric. If this was not an option, “she would probably become a dependent in the household of a family member…it could be an unenviable position, however, for spinsters were generally considered inferior beings…objects of pity….”
“For those gently born women without family…one of the few paid occupations available to them was that of companion or governess…there was usually little to look forward to beyond a lifetime of drudgery… treated little better than a domestic servant.” Indeed their position was more difficult, because they fell outside the hierarchy of domestics, but below the status of a gentlewoman, and thus found themselves in a no man’s land with no social circle at all.
Thus, in Emma, the great good fortune of Miss Taylor’s marrying when she is over 30 is made much of. And the equally great ill fortune of Jane Fairfax having to become a governess is a constant undercurrent in her part of the story.
Georgette Heyer’s Regency World by Jennifer Kloester (2005), Chapter 4, “The Gentle Sex”